But you can’t skip over that conversation and go straight to the safe space. You can’t just be in our space and expect us to be okay with it. We need to know you, we need to trust you. The best way you can support us in our safe spaces is by defending them. And the best place for you to do that is on the other side of the door. If you’re not going to verbally declare yourself as an equal and an ally, do not hover on the fring…