I just wrote an article about how the Black Baptist side of my family, essentially passed down this ideal to me, and it affected my relationship with sex. (The women primarily did this, not them men.)
But now, reading your article, I see that the women were giving me these values in an attempt to keep me safe.
It’s truly sad that in order to be safe, in this world, (if you’re female) what has to happen is a total repression of your sexuality. That’s not healthy.