Jesus. You are something else. That’s what you are. First of all, are you calling me a snowflake? Because honestly, I don’t quite know what that is. I know it’s supposed to be an insult of some kind, but I don’t get it. I can’t quite figure out where the insult is supposed to be, because it doesn’t really mean anything to me.

Maybe that’s because I don’t get Millennials. And I have raised three of them, four if I count my baby brother who I quarter raised — and God they’re weird! To my experience, cause that’s clearly a stereotype, but I mean that’s how I experience Millennials.

I’m a very average Gen Xer. And I think we made these Millennials this way with all of our cynicism. So, as you can see, I like stereotypes. Most people do. It’s hard-wired into human survival skills, Im sure, because we need to identify and quickly classify perceived threats. So typical white person, sees a big black man on the street. Their brain goes: red alert! Red alert! Threat! Threat! Protect yourself.

And say I see you, somewhere, as you described yourself above. My brain goes: red alert! Red alert! Threat! Threat! Run for cover!

Now in many cases, me and the white people are quite wrong. But does the lizard brain that protects our bodies from harm care about that? Hell no! So stereotypes are not only somewhat true, in almost all cases, they are useful. I’m I right John Hopkins? Back me up on this. I know John will back me up on this. John and I go back and forth about gender and sexism/feminism, like you and I argue about race and racism. But it’s cool. Because I like to be challenged and I like to understand different perspectives and John is very good at getting me to see the other side of things on the battle of the sexes. But you and the race stuff, man you’re going to have to step up your game! Sometimes I feel like you are trying to convert me into a Republican, and my God, I can barely stomach the Democrats, and believe me those beliefs win me no popularity contests with all my liberal Hillary loving friends.

But to be fair race is a much harder line to cross. We all have to interact with the opposite sex. We don’t all have to interact with any race other than our own, unless we want to. Although, that is less true for blacks than whites in America.

But, while I rarely agree with anything that you write, I find you intriguing because you’re so intelligent; and I really want to understand how someone as intelligent as you are ends up with the beliefs you hold. Which are, quite honestly, conflicted. But I think that’s true for all of us.

I hope, that you will continue dialoguing with me on American race relations. I am about to pop off something more formal, and I’d really like for you to be a part of it, because you represent such a different perspective.

Those of us on opposing sides gotta start talking TO each other and not AT each other. I think that you and I do that…but just barely.

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