My father graduated from Harvard University. (In the 60s when hardly any black people went there at all.) People are usually impressed by this. In fact most white people, I’ve encountered find this to be unbelievable.
So one day, I was talking to my father about his graduation from Harvard, I can’t remember what I was saying, but I was implying that he should be able to know something or do something because of it (I was just a kid…around 10.) so he turns to me, angrily and he says, “You know what Harvard is good for? It’s good for people saying “oooooooooooh and aaaaaaaaaaaaaah” when you tell them where you went to school, that’s it!”
I thought that was funny. He then went on to tell me why Harvard only opened but so many doors for him…well my father is privileged in ways that he doesn’t really recognize or understand, and what I hear you saying here is that people going “oooooooooooooh and aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah” over something you’ve accomplished does in fact have it’s tangible benefits.
I love the way you’re so perceptive. I tell every woman I know, “you must read Thick!” I gave my copy away to a friend. She likes it so much, I fear I won’t get it back.