Yeah that was my guess without even reading the article. From the title my guess was that they were poor men, but she is also stressing a lack of education and a lack of socialization against rape…and all of that ties into poverty.

I just began exploring my own experiences with aggressive sexism here in the United States…this experience relates to a teen intimate relationship that had all the red flags of turning into a very violent relationship. It never did. I got out of the relationship before that happened. But undoubtedly, the sexism, not just of the individual man, but the surrounding culture (lower class African-American culture) was impacting this relationship in a really negative way. I was never raped, but I was being subjected to demands of submission, that to me felt third world. Anytime a partner in a relationship demands control of what you wear, who you speak to, who you have relationships with, where you go…you the person upon whom these demands are being made, are in danger. And yet this is all par for the course in a lot of the third worlds, in fact in those countries, you are probably more in danger, if you don’t have someone making all those demands. They make those demands to protect the women. They do it because their societies don’t have structures in place to protect the women institutionally (functional police departments for example.) So Everyman is trying to individually protect female relatives from other men, and if the poverty is extreme, that’s probably a daunting task.

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